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From Loss to Life
This blog is written by SIDS America co-founder, Cheryl Darnell, whose son Billy died from SIDS. The thoughts reflected here come from Cheryl's heart to encourage others who are also experiencing the death of a child from SIDS. Her desire is that you might find hope and healing through her words and know that you are not alone.
Anniversaries, Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Doubting God, Encouragement, Faith, Fear, God's Promises, Greandparents, Greif, Grief Counseling, Healing, Holidays, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Prayer, Scriptures, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Sundrome, What to Say&What Not to Say
Jesus – The Counselor
An Exposition of Luke 24:13-32
By: Martie Spurgeon
Having lost our daughter to SIDS several years ago I have had countless opportunities to talk with other families who have also experienced the same loss. God has allowed my heartache to be a springboard that has allowed me to counsel other Mother’s who are walking through the deep grief that follows loosing a child. After our daughter died from SIDS in 1997 I felt like my life had shattered right before my very eyes. I lost my way. I needed someone to come alongside and share with me truth – a counselor. As the years have passed and God has healed my heart; He has placed within me a burden to be a counselor to those who are grieving and hurting.
A few weeks ago as I was in church and listening to the message a passage of scripture became so clear to me. I saw it in a whole different...
Comfort, Death, Encouragement, Faith, Fear, God's Promises, Grief, Healing, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Prayer, Scripture, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
“What time I am afraid I will trust in thee.” Psalm 56:3
Written by: Martie Spurgeon
We had loaded the family into the van and were heading up for a hike at a nearby mountain here in North Carolina. Our youngest daughter had been so excited about hiking and had chattered about it all day long as we prepared for the time when Daddy would get home from work and we would go on our adventure.
The hiking destination is about thirty minutes from our house and the trip there was filled with talking and laughing and a general buzz of noise. We made the turn to head up the mountain to the hiking trail. On either side of the van we were surrounded by mountains. It grew a little darker as the road narrowed. Suddenly our youngest who was four at the time began to cry; and I mean really cry! I was stunned and looked for something that had caused her pain or even a sibling who had caused her pain; but there was nothing. “...
Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Encouragments, Faith, Fear, God's Promises, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Prayer, Scripture, SIDS
Written by: Martie Spurgeon
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11
Perhaps this is my favorite verse in scripture. I can not say that for certain because I have so many ‘favorites’. What I do know is that there is no other verse or passage in the Bible that I have turned to more and claimed more during a time of trial than this particular verse.
Isn’t it comforting to know that God does not think towards me thoughts of evil? I am sure that one of the things that Satan desires most is for me to question God’s thoughts of me. He brings questions to my mind during times of trial and hurt that are arrows of doubt aimed right at my soul. Satan wants me to doubt God’s love. He wants me to think that God is ‘out to get me’. The...
Anger, Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Depression, Doubting God, Encouragement, Faith, Family & Friends, God's Promises, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Scriptures, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Here is one of the most profound messages I've ever heard on grieving the death of a child. May this bring some comfort and encouragement to you parents, grandparents, and others suffering the loss of a child to SIDS. And may it give a voice to those of you who may not quite feel the ability to freely express your pain and grief. I'll stop there- Rev. Meghan Feldmeyer's message speaks for itself:
Lament for a Son
2 Samuel 18:5-15, 19-33
A Sermon preached in Duke University Chapel on August 12, 2012 by the Rev. Meghan Feldmeyer
A friend of mine serves a church similar to Duke Chapel in that ministers offer prayers for healing and anointing with oil during communion. He shared with me his recent experience of being one of the ministers of anointing on Easter Sunday. Easter is a day when the worship service is crafted to reveal extreme joy...brass instruments, choral descants, banners, and lilies all speaking to the abundance of...
Anger, Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Doubting God, Encouragement, Faith, Family & Friends, Grief, Healing, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Loss of Hopes & Dreams, Prayer, SIDS, SIDS Support, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
"Where was God when my baby died?"
It's a question asked by nearly every grieving SIDS family. And I found an insightful response to it in a blog posted yesterday on CNN. The blog was also addressing the question, "Where was God?," in reference to the recent mass shooting spree in which a gunman took the lives of 12 people and left many others injured in a movie theater in Aurora, Colorado, on July 20.
Rob Brendle, the author of this particular blog, also happens to be the pastor who came to see us in the hospital in March 2008 as we held Billy, lifeless, in our arms. While I couldn't tell you exactly what Rob said because my mind was in such shock that morning, I will always remember the peace that held my heart when he spoke to us in that hospital room- and as he shared a hope-filled, life-giving message at our son's memorial service. The man is not just gifted- he cares about people, he listens to God, and he speaks to our minds the...
Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Doubting God, Encouragement, Faith, Grief, Healing, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Loss of hopes and dreams, Prayer, Scriptures, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Many people are quick to offer prayer when they hear of tragedy, such as a child dying of SIDS. Perhaps it's because we all know that it's going to take much more than our human efforts to bring comfort and healing to those who are so deeply suffering. We know it's going to take supernatural power to hold parents together when they suddenly and horrifyingly unexpectedly find their child lying lifeless in his/her crib.
It is encouraging to know that our prayers are not in vain. We have direct access to the God of the Universe when we pray, and His Word promises that when we pray, He hears- and answers- our prayers. Jesus said in John 14:13-14, "And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it."
Sometimes our most genuine prayers are uttered in moments of deepest desperation. God never said that prayer needed to be eloquent and wordy. Simply mustering the ability to...
Brokenness, Comfort, Doubting God, Encouragement, Faith, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Loss of Hopes & Dreams, SIDS, SIDS Support, Songs That Heal, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Songs can bring incredible healing, and when a song is inspired by the Word of God, which is living and powerful, it can minister to a broken heart like no other words can. One such song was sent to me just after our son died. I will confess, it took me about 3 MONTHS before I even took the packaging off the CD. People grieve differently, and for me, I was just very silent for the first couple months. I didn't want to talk to anyone. I didn't want to read any books about grief. And worship- which had always been "my escape"- my place where I felt closest to the Lord- now was extremely painful. I didn't know if I really believed what I was singing anymore. How could I worship or praise my God in the midst of wanting to blame Him for my tragedy?
Then I heard this song. I played it by myself in my room one afternoon. And I wept. For what seemed like hours. I played the song over- and over- and over. The words consumed me- and became my own cry- my desperate attempt to find the...