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From Loss to Life
This blog is written by SIDS America co-founder, Cheryl Darnell, whose son Billy died from SIDS. The thoughts reflected here come from Cheryl's heart to encourage others who are also experiencing the death of a child from SIDS. Her desire is that you might find hope and healing through her words and know that you are not alone.
Brakenness, Comfort, Death, Encouragement, Faith, Fear, God's Promises, Greif, Healing, Heaven, Hope, Loss of Baby, Pregnancy, Scripture, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Written By: Martie Spurgeon
“For I reckon the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” Romans 8:18
SIDS brings suffering to the hearts of family members touched by its sudden arrival. It hurts. It is unseen and nothing could prepare us for the void it leaves in our families for years to come.
When a child dies of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome it causes the parents to feel vulnerable and uncertain of what the future holds for them or other children they have.
Sudden death brings sudden pain, sudden suffering.
This verse is for us. It serves...
Brokenness, Comroft, Death, Encouragment, Faith, Family & Friends, Fear, God's Promises, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Hope, Loss of Baby, Prayer, Scripture, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Written by: Martie Spurgeon
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in time of trouble.”
What comfort this verse can bring to the grieving parent! God is a refuge – a hiding place, a safe place. How we long for that after our world has been turned upside down! How we desire a safe place to hide. I remember after our daughter died the fear that filled my heart. Fear fills the heart of every parent who has suffered the unexpected loss of a baby. This reality becomes crystal clear: Life can change in an instant. Everything seems uncertain and unsure. This verse helps us to realize that God is there for us even when everything around us seems unsure and unstable. God is not just a refuge; oh no, it is so much more personal that that! He is our refuge if we are His.
Not only is God our...
Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Encouragments, Faith, Fear, God's Promises, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Prayer, Scripture, SIDS
Written by: Martie Spurgeon
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11
Perhaps this is my favorite verse in scripture. I can not say that for certain because I have so many ‘favorites’. What I do know is that there is no other verse or passage in the Bible that I have turned to more and claimed more during a time of trial than this particular verse.
Isn’t it comforting to know that God does not think towards me thoughts of evil? I am sure that one of the things that Satan desires most is for me to question God’s thoughts of me. He brings questions to my mind during times of trial and hurt that are arrows of doubt aimed right at my soul. Satan wants me to doubt God’s love. He wants me to think that God is ‘out to get me’. The...
Written by: Martie Spurgeon
A relationship with Jesus Christ changes everything. I can not imagine going through the trials of this life without knowing that God is right there with me. Have you experienced this too? Have you wondered what it would be like to go through life without God? Or, perhaps, do you wonder as you read this post what it means to have a relationship with Jesus Christ?
A relationship with God means that you know Him personally, like you know your family and friends. It is not simply a knowing of Him. So many times in today’s day and age we know of God. We have heard of Him at Christmas time or we have heard of Him when we hear the Easter story each spring. However, a personal relationship is more than knowing about God – it is personally knowing Him.
Do you know that God desires to have a personal relationship with you? God desires it. The Bible tells us that...
Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Encouragement, Faith, God's Promises, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Holidays, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Hopes & Dreams, Scriptures, SIDS, SIDS Support, Songs That Heal, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Holidays can be so difficult for grieving families. Festive cheer surrounds us, yet for those grieving such devastating loss, it can cause feelings of isolation and loneliness. Grieving families may not feel like celebrating, and others may or may not understand. The absence of our babies looms heavily over us, and we can hardly find reason to be joyful at a time that causes such deep pain.
A mother from our Dallas Support Group sent me an email recently in which she referenced Luke 2:19 from the Bible: "But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart." It's right in the midst of the Christmas story- Mary is holding her newborn son in a humble stable, a mass of angels breaks through heaven to sing of the King who has come to save the world, and after shepherds witness the miracle themselves, they begin a mass communication effort to get the word out that God had come- as a helpless, human baby- to earth. Amid all the fanfare from the...
Written by Martie Spurgeon
“It is a good thing to give thanks unto the Lord…” Psalm 92:1
Our Heavenly Father knows what it best for us. He knows our makeup and understands our humanity. Part of our makeup is to forget to see the good things in life. This is especially true during times of crisis. It is easy when life has thrown us a curve ball to only see life through a negative viewpoint.
Then we open the Bible and read here that it is a good thing to give thanks to God. He reminds us gently saying, “My child it is good for you to give thanks.” Perhaps your heart cries out, “But for what do I have to be thankful? The dearest thing on earth to me is gone!” Yet the verse is still true, “It is a good thing to give thanks.” His promptings cause your heart to try to find something – even a little thing for which you can be thankful. Then Holy Spirit comes along side starts showing you how much you have been...
Anniversaries, Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Encouragement, Faith, Fear, God's Promises, Grief, Heaven, Hope, Loss of Baby, Scriptures, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
This post is written by Martie Spurgeon, gifted writer and mother of 6. Her daughter Ally died of SIDS on December 13, 1997. Be blessed by Martie's hope-filled and encouraging words, birthed out of her own grieved-yet healing- heart.
Psalm 116:15 – “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints.”
How different are our views of death compared to God’s thoughts on the subject. To us, death of a loved one is something that is dreaded, feared and we are left many questions of how their death could have been avoided or prevented. This is especially true when it was one of our dear little children. How deep the pain! How comforting to know that God views death in a completely different way.
“Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints.”
There are some verses in the Bible that take on a special meaning after the death of a baby. For me, this was one of those verses. The day our...
Anger, Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Depression, Doubting God, Encouragement, Faith, Family & Friends, God's Promises, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Faith, Scriptures, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Here is one of the most profound messages I've ever heard on grieving the death of a child. May this bring some comfort and encouragement to you parents, grandparents, and others suffering the loss of a child to SIDS. And may it give a voice to those of you who may not quite feel the ability to freely express your pain and grief. I'll stop there- Rev. Meghan Feldmeyer's message speaks for itself:
Lament for a Son
2 Samuel 18:5-15, 19-33
A Sermon preached in Duke University Chapel on August 12, 2012 by the Rev. Meghan Feldmeyer
A friend of mine serves a church similar to Duke Chapel in that ministers offer prayers for healing and anointing with oil during communion. He shared with me his recent experience of being one of the ministers of anointing on Easter Sunday. Easter is a day when the worship service is crafted to reveal extreme joy...brass instruments, choral descants, banners, and lilies all speaking to the abundance of...
Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Depression, Doubting God, Encouragement, Faith, Family & Friends, Father's Day, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Holidays, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Hopes & Dreams, SIDS, SIDS Support, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, What to Say & What Not to Say
Today I write to the dads who have suffered the death of a child to SIDS. I was inspired to write this by the love and concern of a very close friend of ours. Separate from her constant checking in on me, she would consistently check on Bill and ask him specifically how he was doing for over a year after Billy died. That meant so much to my husband, and it had a significant impact on his healing. Thank you, dear, dear friend. :)
Much attention, empathy, and sympathy is poured out to mothers upon the loss of a child.
But what about the dads?
Weeks after our son died, my husband commented, "There seems to be lots of support available for mothers, but I kind of feel lost as a grieving dad."
It's not often we hear men talk about being sad. Men and women certainly grieve differently, but I wonder if our culture really even allows for men to fully grieve at all. Perhaps dads feel an expectation to hold...
Anniversaries, Brokenness, Comfort, Death, Depression, Encouragement, Faith, Grief, Healing, Heaven, Holidays, Hope, Loss of Baby, Loss of Hopes & Dreams, Mother's Day, Scriptures, SIDS, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
For all mothers who have suffered the death of a child to SIDS....
While many moms blissfully relish in the joys of motherhood today, there are also many mothers who face this day feeling empty, surrounded by empty.....empty arms, empty carseat, empty nursery, empty heart. How, you may be wondering, does a grieving mother possibly "celebrate" Mother's Day?
To answer that, it helps to look at a significant truth about becoming a mother.
God says in the following passages:
Jeremiah 1:5: Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart...
Psalm 139:13-16: For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days...